First off, I have never been abused. I will never understand what goes on in the mind of someone who has been abused. I will never understand how scared they are, or how afraid they are of the persons who are abusing them.
I am honestly someone who wants to help, and hopefully make a change in people's lives.
I have studied, talked, worked with those who have been abused. I have taken classes on the subject. I have even worked in group therapy on different subjects, and various age groups.
What I have observed and noticed, there is fear in the lives of the abused. It is an undescribable fear.
Here is an interesting fact: The abusers are usually very good at getting away with abuse!
You are probably thinking; what does that mean?
Let me explain. Most people assume child-abusers are living in poor communities, jobless, struggling to find means, homeless, or just down right the person living by him/herself.
We need to make sure we understand: Anyone can be!
Fact is, child abusers are usually very manipulative, narcissitic, friendly, and even out-going.
There is no way of knowing who is actually an abuser. In fact, they are someone who is well-respected in their community, their church, or even their neighborhood. That is why the fight is so hard to fight.
That brings me back to fear, and the victims being abused. Since those who are abusing them, are looked as great people from their peers, the victim's are afraid no one will beleive them. Or the abuser might abuse them more, kill them, or hurt their families.
In fact, the abuser will tell them, "If you tell anyone I will hurt your family. You get the idea.
I believe these are a few of the reasons child abuse is such a taboo subject, and the fight is not getting fought.
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I liked what you said but I think you simplified things far too much. You didn't mention the shame that keeps people silent. Many are raised to believe it is normal and or it is there fault and thus that keeps them silent as well. There is also fear of the authorities. They don't want CPS to come in and split up their families, seperating them from their siblings. Most children will even protect the abuser because they love them and greatly desire their approval at the same time they hate the abuser. There are so many layers of fear and conflicting emotions these children are facing.
shealee's friend
thanks for your input, and inside.
As I said before, we really do not understand how bad of problem it is, and I will never understand how much fear there really is.
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